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The Mans Guide to Vibrators
If your vibrator isn’t made out of quality material or all that easy to clean, you probably won’t be reaching for it all that much, even if you’re horny 24/7. Simply put, if you’re regularly putting something near, on, or in your genitals, you’ll want to make sure that something is safe and that it can take a nice thorough clean after. This might mean that you stay away from those mildly sketchy super cheap vibrators and invest a little more, which doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll have to sacrifice affordability. Sex toys can be made from lots of different materials—some are porous, while others are non-porous.
Balestrieri says those just starting to find their vibe might want to start with a wand because of its wider, rounded top. “It allows for more different types of stimulation than perhaps some of the smaller vibrators,” she says. She likes Bed Geek’s wand massager because of its compact size (which makes it easier to store in your home than other wands) and numerous settings «that make for a really nice entry into the wand world.»
The Rechargeable is Finn’s favorite of Magic Wand’s offerings to recommend because it is cordless and features a smooth silicone head and quieter motor. Some finger vibrators come in the design of a finger sleeve that easily slips over your digit of choice to make solo play or foreplay as easy as pressing a button (or your erogenous zones). Other devices are slightly larger and pebble-shaped to stimulate more surface area at once. Look no further than a bullet vibrator—the lipstick-shaped We-Vibe Tango X is tops. “[It] offers vibrations that penetrate through the skin to stimulate the entire clitoris,” sex educator Javay Frye-Nekrasova, MEd, previously told SELF.
It also has a low battery indicator, so there are no mid-sex surprises. Wand vibrators are typically on the larger side, but there are still plenty of different shapes to choose from. «Vaginas, vulvas vibrator, and other erogenous areas come in different shapes and sizes, and finding the perfect length and width is key,» says Dr. Hack. The price range for vibrators is surprisingly vast, with the most affordable options in the $20 area and the most luxurious upwards of $300.
But we do not think this toy is the best pick for solo clitoral play (unless you prefer “riding” or grinding against a vibrator while lying face down, as opposed to holding it in place with your hand). We do think this toy has great potential for use during partnered intercourse, where the person with the vulva is on top. We decided to test the Fun Factory Volta on the recommendation of esteemed sex-toy blogger Epiphora, who gave it a glowing review and selected it as one of the best sex toys of 2018.
Honestly, finding a good vibrator to use during intercourse is harder than you’d think. Too small, and you or your partner might have trouble holding on to it in the heat of the moment. From its name to its design, the Maude Vibe exudes cool-girl energy — it has that perfect mix of seeming effortlessness while also being entirely capable and impressive. Customers appreciate the massager’s variety of modes that cater to different needs. If budget is no object, then our winning Womanizer Clitoral Suction Toy is easy to use, effective and discreet. Described as “one of the best rabbits I have ever tried” by one tester, it’s no wonder the Glow Bunny scored so highly in our tests.
This area is extremely sensitive and a prime spot to invest a little more attention, but the previous Tenuto’s solution was … less than ideal. The Tenuto Mini is most similar to a vibrating cock ring, the kind that wraps around the base of a penis and has a small vibrating motor at the top and, sometimes , the bottom. But while those devices are a dime a dozen and typically flimsy, the Tenuto Mini is rigid, with a small gap at the bottom. A few years ago, I tried out MysteryVibe’s unique Tenuto vibrator and found it somewhat wanting. Creating a vibrator that helps its user maintain an erection, stimulates neglected parts of the body, and is mutually beneficial for both the user and their partner was a noble goal, but one the company struggled to achieve.
«Instead of lying or sitting there and having the device stimulate you, engage your body with the vibrator. Often, this leads to a deepened experience of pleasure as you are activating the pelvic floor and your internal clitoris.» You attach the clitoral vibrator to your panties with a magnetic clip, making it ideal for sensual stimulation on the go. The panty vibrator comes in sophisticated black with gold-colored details and lies directly on the clitoris thanks to its ergonomic shape. The powerful but whisper-quiet vibrations mean your Little Secret is also absolutely discreet. It has an impressive, soft surface made of body-friendly silicone that will provide you with a smooth experience with just a few drops of lubricant.
Ideally, you should take the material into consideration when choosing your toy in the first place, but it’s okay if you skipped that step—you can look up your toy online to double-check. When you scarcely learn anything useful about the very basics in sex ed, it’s unlikely anyone went out of their way to tell you how to use a vibrator for the first time. For most of us, you literally have to take matters (including whatever batteries you might need) into your own hands.
Designed to be worn between your fingers, the Fin is an easy-to-grasp sex toy that can stay discreet during sex, Lisa Finn, sex educator with sex toy store Babeland, tells SELF. “You don’t have to worry about it slipping from your hands as you play, which is great for mobility and accessibility as well as keeping it from being obstructive or in the way,” they say. It’s also water-resistant, USB-rechargeable, and has three low-intensity settings that you can explore by pressing its only button.
